School holiday is testing my limit, kids’ sleeping hours are haywire. Harith n Uwais are morning person, regardless how late they sleep, b4 8am they will be up dh tepacak bangun leaving me no chance of sleeping in. Uwais is only 10 months but is taking less nap now since the other 3 are home, he finds it more interesting to be up to play with them. Yesterday uwais slept 5 mins to midnite, he only had nap twice during the day in which total hours slept not even close to 2 hours. Uzair as usual sleeps late and he will sleep in. Due to various sleeping pattern of the kids’, i ended up sleeping late but waking up early. Putting all 4 to sleep is a different battle everyday. At times i wonder does syauQi ever wonder how do i managed the 4 kids alone when he is away.

As i mention in previous entry, uzair likes the crashing game, now he crashes on me all the time. he is 14 kg and i’m 43kg…that’s about 1/3 of my weight crashing on me. I used to sleep before him and let him fall asleep by himself but due to these crashing seeking thingy, he tend to jump on me every now and then when i am asleep. Thus alternatively, i cant sleep but belek2 die instead, rub oil on his body and such. Asal nampak i pegang botol baby oil, wahh laju je die pasrah kan diri baring hulur kaki suruh sapu2. lepas kaki hulur tangan lak, pastu selak baju pastu hulur kaki balik….

I really need to increase my patience n tolerance level, besides getting crash onto, uwais is teething…i get bites every now n then. And he has this habit of one hand thumb sucking and the other hand grasp on my hair..ended up getting my hair pulled every now and then. Oh have i mentioned here? Uwais has started walking! He started walking a week after he turned 10 months, Subhanallah. We are rather surprised to see him walking that soon, in fact he is already busy kicking balls. He started crawling pun cepat, when he was 5 months plus. Lets hope he starts talking fast too..hihi Or at least no a delayed speech issue, insyaAllah.

No, uzair is still not talking and has his tantrums every now n then. BUT when he is without tantrums he is much of a cheerful boy. He laughs and giggles more when he is not in his tantrums. Do the crashing game with him, he will be one happy cheerful boy! It need lots of energy to play with him, he likes adventure seeking kind of play.

uZair in a cheerful mode

hArith is attending holiday programme 12 days Swimming Crash Course. Initially we enrolled athirAh too but she refused to corporate. She wanted to be in the small pool je taknk masuk the big pool. For their age, they not able to swim yet after the 12 days but they teach survival skill, i.e floating and kangaroo hope in the water. Tomorrow will be their last day. I plan to pinjam my SIL underwater camera to take few shots of them in the water. Meanwhile here are few shots i took with my phone

“Blow bubbles with your nose, not your mouth”

starfish float, he can float but not confident to do it at the big pool

kat big pool, kept telling the coach “dont let me go”

The crash course swimming lesson is at Glenmarie Golf Club 4 times a week (weekday). yup mmg mcm cari pasal namenye,have to redah jam every petang for the swimming lesson (5-6pm) But im not complaining, dok rumah with them pun just as tiring. I would love if hArith continues the swimming lesson, once a week (weekend). Currently he is at Nemo 1 level, so if smbung monthly he can masuk level Nemo 2. Syauqi doesnt seem to agree with me, he said tak baloi spend hours on the road to bawak sorang je. Well, dah age anak lain2, different anak lain needs lah kan? His exact ayat was “i want you home” im not too sure does that mean he wants me home because he wants to spend more time with me or because he wants me home as in dont-leave-me-to-handle-the-other-3 kids…hahaha. Welcome to my world syauqi 2 – 3 jam jer im leaving the kids with you … it is a nice break for me (even though it means stuck in the traffic jam)

It is no doubt tiring dealing with the kids, hope besar nanti pandai lah they take care of us, parents pulak. Regardless how tiring the days are…seeing moments like this,how well they bond together…will never fail to put a smile on my face,

and sweep away all the kepenatan, (but that doesnt mean i dont grumble on how tired it is…hahaha)

Precious

Been wanting to share with all of you the experience im going through with my son uZAir. But each time i decide to sit down, i ended up lost of words on how to compose it. May i warn u, this will be a very “wordy” entry. will try to put photos (irrelevant) in between so u wont feel like as though u are reading a thesis…haha

Uzair is already 3 years and 4 months but has not started talking. I mention about his and our frustration in this entry. Anyway, each time i raise the issue of uzair’s delay in speech, i kept getting assurance from others ” biasa lah tu, some ppl start talking later” “ala, nanti once dah cakap, sure ckp tak benti” ” X and Y start cakap when he was 4, dont worry” . but my maternal instinct told me the other way. I was worried sick but kept it to myself n make lots of dua’ to Allah.

Beside delay in speech, he doesnt really mix with others. He likes to take two things and start knocking it together, it can go on for hours.  I was worried of autism back then but alhamdulillah he has eye contact whenever we interact with him. but i wouldnt want to be too confident and rule it out by myself without professional help. Thus i made an appointment to see developmental pediatrician. It was back in June when i called up for appointment, unfortunately there isnt much developmental pediatrician here in Malaysia, the only slot we manage to get was end october. So for those who suspect your kid with anydevelopmental issues, i suggest you call in for appointment, and if along the way, u manage to tackle the issue, u can always call to cancel the appointment. Doctor Rajini is from Sunway Medical but she is at the Baby Beyond Clinic in Bangsar Village II every monday. We got our appointment in Bangsar Village 2.

Besides the speech delay,we didnt realise other issues that should have been a concernbecause our elder 2 were premature, so we couldnt compare their development progress. now that we have uWais, we can see things that uzair didnt do when he was younger. He was lack in imitation. If we sing and do action and all, he didnt imitate  much (tapi if programme Wiggles tu, reti pulak nk imitate). he wasnt interested in toys (not much curiosity), you can bring him into Toys R Us, he will just look and show no interest at all in any of the toys. The toys we have at home pun tak hairan. Uwais yg baru 10 bulan ni pun dah reti nk main toys n rampas toys dari elder 2.

I did ask the speech therapy (uzair started going for speech therapy since May) at what point i should already be concern and brought him for speech therapy (after realizing we should have seen speech therapy earlier too). According to her, if uzair has imitation, role play and other interaction, then boleh lah if nk tunggu skit lg, coz ni jatuh under category soon-he-will-start-talking, tp since uZair dah takde sume tu, then it means mmg ade issues that need to be address. So my advice, if your anak have these signs i mentioned, or another thing is if he tends to pull himself away from crowd, avoidance and such… it is a concern. Should seek professional help. Get the appointment and while waiting for 3 – 4 months for your slots, if he out grow from the issues, you can cancel the appointment. Coz if u say takpe lets give it another 2 3 bulan camane, ha by then nk buat appointment…jenuh nak menuggu another 4 5 months

Anyway, he is attending speech therapy  at Hartamas. I was given number for speech therapy centre called Speech Help in PJ but they were full and they gave me the lady in Hartamas. Im very happy with her, and best part is, she rent a house and turn it into a centre, thus parking is not an issue. boleh park depan her house. Her fees is RM120 for an hour session. We attend once a week. Since we started with the speech therapy, we can see uzair’s improvement in terms of his interaction. Previously he wouldnt even acknowledge presence of guests in the house. at least now if my aunts datang, he will approach the guest and showed some gesture. And whenever we go to my inlaws die dah reti lah nak “bertepuk tampar” with the others. In fact although i stay with my parents, previously uzair does not has much (almost to nil) interaction with my parents, nama je duduk sebumbung. n now dah boleh miggle around with the other siblings too, harith n athirah gelak, die pun join gelak.

Anyway the developmental pediatrician diagnose uzair as Sensory Processing Disorder. “Sensory Processing Disorder (SPD, formerly known as “sensory integration dysfunction”) is a condition that exists when sensory signals don’t get organized into appropriate responses. Pioneering occupational therapist and neuroscientist A. Jean Ayres, PhD, likened SPD to a neurological “traffic jam” that prevents certain parts of the brain from receiving the information needed to interpret sensory information correctly” . ” We receive and perceive sensory input through sights, sounds, touch, tastes, smells and movements, Difficulty taking in or interpreting this input can lead to devastating consequences” And this explains uzair’s speech delay.

Doctor suggested for Occupational Therapy for uzair. We have started going for the therapy and he loves it. He is getting all the sensory sensation that he needs. The centre is full of padded mat, bean bags in which he can simply crash himself anywhere and fulfill his sensation seeking. Result in occupational therapy questionnaire showed that uzair obtained scores that indicate typical performance on auditory visual processing, vestibular and oral sensory processing BUT definite difference (more than others) on touch and multisensory processing. Some people their touch and multiprocessing is less than others, tu sbb some kids if pegang pasir pun can be painful, they also avoid glue or muds, or can be very sensitive to sound, get irrirates easily with loud sounds. But uzair on the other hand, he is seeking more than others. if nak sapu die, jgn lah sapu lemah lembut, mmg tak feel langsung for him. “One person with SPD may over-respond to sensation and find clothing, physical contact, light, sound, food, or other sensory input to be unbearable. Another might under-respond and show little or no reaction to stimulation, even pain or extreme hot and cold”. Uzair falls in the category under-respond. We were told that uzair becomes frustrated or upset easily due to confusing information from the sensory system. In some cases, the child’s nervous system is not interpreting the input in a helpful way, leading to the child’s sense of disruption with what is going on around him.

So kesimpulannye die bukan lah sesuka hati nak throw tantrum, perhaps thats the reason why my maternal instinct stops me from pinching or spanking him whenever he misbehave. i always believe he throw tantrums because he is frustrated not able deliever to us what he wants…bukan sesuka hati nak tantrums. But of coz my sister thinks the other way round, she thinks im being bias , pilih kasih…kan hanah, kan? . For now, he also attends Occupational Therapy once a week, it is RM 100 for an hour session. So for the Speech and Occupational Therapy for uzair monthly is RM880… maka dgn itu jgn lah berangan nak gi Johor Premium Outlet . Xpe, org kate bumi Allah ni luas, insyaAllah rezeki ade merata2

Anyway, pics above were during our trip to FRIM waterfall. Look at elder 2, they can be very sweet at times. Harith feeding athirah,

Yes, im really bad at getting this blog of mine updated on a frequent basis. Masa mencemburi saya, hahahaha. Nway, here’s an entry of the elder 2 Ihtifal. I didnt manage to get much photos though. Harith and Athirah sang different song, and when they were up on the stage, both of them were on the other ends. I couldnt run from one end to another coz i’ll be running pass all the other parents yg nk amiq gmbar pulak kang. Hence very limited photos of them.

Managed to go behind the stage to snap one, two photos. Harith became a brown chicken while athirah dressed as working people. I wonder did athirah know y she was on the stage, as usual, she is in her world…diri tegak looking at others, wondering y lah sume parents beria amiq gmbar.

all the chickens at the backstage

athirah at backstage, clueless y teacher arranging them, tp bagus duduk ikut instruction..skit pun tak restless. y lah u cannot sit still like that when i asked u dear athirah?

And performance time….

ha tgk lah hArith, conquer microphone

after the performance, i asked hArith “harith, y didnt u face infront?” he replied “because mommy asked me to sing loudly, so harith sing lah to the mic, x payah jerit, tp suara jd loud” haha

n ni athirah, “buat cantek”…skit pun die x nyanyi. diri je

The concert marks the end of elder 2 playgroup. Next year masuk K1

On the third day, syauqi’s parents n sister came to join us. Kids were surprise (and thrilled) upon seeing them. TukWan and Maklong rajin layan them play by the beach. Harith did lots of “project” with TukWan; volcano, river, bridge.

I love the moments captured when hArith main kite with TukWan

hAppy that he managed to fly the kite by himself

oh do u know that flying kite by the beach is as easy as ABC? See, even uwais can do it while asleep!

sound asleep by the beach

The last day, after breakfast kids headed to the beach again. Main sepuas2nye regardless weather

and ni dh mcm trademark shot, kat Cameron aritu pun ade gak lambung camni,

We surely had fun. It was hectic and tiring for us, parents but nothing beat the joy seeing your children happy faces. Bliss. Moga murah rezeki for more getaway, ameen